Conscious choices: increasing the likelihood of falling in love: Proximity, the hidden matchmaker ; Arousal, the elixir of love ; Beauty and character ; Birds of a feather or opposites attract? ; Satisfying needs and reciprocating love ; Falling in love as a process ; On gender and love as a process ; On gender and love, status and beauty -- Unconscious choices: how we choose the lovers we choose: Openness to love ; Internal romantic image -- R0mantic love in long-term relationships: Turning love problems into opportunities for growth